Mum Doesn’t Want Anything for Mother’s Day? Here’s What She Really Means
Our mums are epically selfless folks. Their commitment to us knows no bounds, so much so that if you happened to miss Mother’s Day, forgiveness is there, no questions asked.
But just because your mum says she doesn’t want anything for Mother’s Day, doesn’t mean she wants you to ignore it completely.
“Yeah, I’m not too fussed,” or “Just a card will do,” means she’s putting you first, not wanting you to spend a load of money and put yourself out for the occasion.
Your options here are very simple:
• Ignore what your mum’s saying and do something special
• Take on board some of what she’s saying, and keep things simple
• Follow your mum’s request and get her the grand sum of nothing*
*We’ve asterisked the point you shouldn’t do.
Whatever you do, do not ignore Mother’s Day. Even though your mum doesn’t want anything, that doesn’t provide an excuse to ignore it. Mother’s Day is a cause to celebrate your love of mum and what she does. Grasp it.
“I don’t need anything”
It’s a classic response our mums love to give about most occasions that could, and should, have some gift or recognition attached to them.
That phrase doesn’t mean “don’t do anything”, though. It means that either a gesture is good enough or that your mum would rather do something with you than receive something from you.
In the plainest terms we can put, your mum’s also saying that you are enough for her. Have you heard a sweeter thing this week?
However, read between the lines, and that phrase could also mean, “I’m not going to give ideas, think for yourself.” The onus playfully shifts to you.
Doing nothing isn’t an option. Doing your best is more than enough.
My mum has never been fussed about Mother’s Day
You say never, but occasions are contextual, aren’t they?
Your mum might have forgotten about Mother’s Day herself in the past and never placed much value on the occasion. There are years, though, where she feels the grind and Mother’s Day looks like a welcome break from it all.
Don’t take your assumptions literally is our advice. One year’s welcome miss is another year’s disappointment. Even a small gesture is enough to show your appreciation for all the stuff she does for you, and has done, of course.
Things to do for your mum this Mother’s Day
• Buy her anything she loves, be it perfume or makeup.
• Buy her a card; make it a big one if you like. Print off a photo that suits the occasion and paperclip it to the inside for her to find.
• In addition to a card, get a nice silver or gold photo frame and put a photo in it, instead of putting it inside the card.
• Buy her some flowers. Give them to her yourself or order them for delivery. A colourful, mixed bouquet is a safe option. Consider these lead flowers for it:
• Let it be known that for the day, your mum isn’t to do a thing around the house. You will do every chore that saps her time.
Things to do with your mum this Mother’s Day
• Go for a walk somewhere gorgeous if the weather allows it.
• Being indoors is fine if that walk’s a no-go. Visit any fantastic museum or historical place, such as a cathedral.
• Eat out somewhere she enjoys, or somewhere new. Book in advance if you can, though, because Mother’s Day is notoriously busy.
• Attend an event somewhere. A concert, car boot sale, convention, or an experience day. Again, book ahead of time when possible.
• Take off for the weekend or even the week. A few nights at a hot tub lodge, at a B&B, or even abroad, should you be the luckiest of sods.
Classic Mother’s Day gestures that never go amiss
• Taking the day off work to be with your mum. You don’t even have to show up with a card for this one. It’s the time spent that counts.
• Flowers and chocolates, the double-whammy of giving something beautiful to look at, and something delicious to devour.
• Movie night. A top activity if you can’t make it over during the day. Let her choose the movie, of course. And the snacks.
• Address one of her complaints. That could be the air fryer that randomly shuts off (get her a new one) or fixing that creaking floorboard on the landing. Fix stuff and be the one who “sorted it out” for your mum.
Make the most of Mother’s Day
If time is all we really have, then that’s your best Mother’s Day gesture. Spend the day with her or make time for her on another day that suits you both.
Gifts are nice and definitely go down well when you also spend that time. They’re easy enough to pick, too. Some perfume, whatever beauty products your mum uses, candles, flowers, and any treats she loves. One will do, no need to go crazy.
Should you leave it late, then Euroflorist’s same-day flowers arrive on the day you order them, or the next day if you order after the cut-off point. No one needs to know how close you cut it.